Children can be a little too difficult to look after, especially if the kid is your first. In that case, you have little to no understanding of child psychology. You and your child are both learning how to cope up with one another and you, being the elder one, need to take up steps to address not-so-ideal situations.
In other cases, say when babysitting, again, you have no clue what triggers the kid or what will set their tantrums loose. The tips mentioned below, on how to deal with a kid that is bound to start crying at the drop of a hat, will definitely come in handy in situations like these.
Don’t react the way they expect:
Here, we are talking about stubborn children who throw tantrums for, apparently, nothing. When, in the beginning, they are given attention for letting out their waterworks, they prefer to do it every time they find things not going as per their choice. The best way is to not give them any attention. Make sure they are fine but don’t encourage their crying habit.
Also, make sure you appreciate them whenever they resort to speaking than crying to solve their problems. This will send out a strict message to them that their good habits are encouraged, but their crying habits are not.
Allow them to solve their own problems:
Many times, crying is a call for help for most kids. Which is why it is important to not answer this call when they reach a certain age. Allow them to take care of their own issues when they grow up, instead of stepping in and doing it for them.
For example, your kid receives a blue cupcake at a party instead of a pink one. They are about to start howling their lungs out. What you, as a parent, can do here is, tell your kid to go get a pink one for themselves. Or get it exchanged with someone who is keen on having a blue one.
This attitude will help your kids solve their own problems without crying or coming to you for help.
Go beyond the obvious:
Many times, oblivious to parents, children cry because they feel unsafe or threatened in somebody’s presence. Or at a particular place. Pay close attention to your kid who doesn’t normally cry very often, but does so only in the presence of someone in particular.
Children are amazingly good at their intuitions, and you can fully rely on them. Don’t dismiss a child’s cry just because the reason is not very apparent.
Wrapping it up:
Children are lovable. Cute. Adorable. They are trying to figure out the world and its means & measures in their own little ways. Give them the advantage of doubt. Don’t lose your temper over silly things that make children cry.
Remember that children are on their way to learning how to communicate better. Maybe they aren’t able to come out clean with what’s bothering them, yet. As and when they grow old, your child will have mastered the art of putting their word across in the best way possible.
Till then, be there for them no matter how much they cry or laugh.